Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Infertility Emotional Effects

Something I wish I had known when I was struggling with IF, from the beginning.  The second time around of trying to get pg will be so different.  I know better what to expect.  Unfortunately when I was in the middle of it, the depths of it, I didn't know.  We got some counseling from someone who supposedly had experience.  While she did have some, it was a situation where she tried for a few months, did one month of clomid and got pregnant.  I really needed someone who had gone through IVF to better understand me.  I'm not saying that she didn't go through a large range of emotions, but even she admitted that she couldn't understand exactly what I was dealing with.  Never easy to hear coming from your counselor.  Needless to say, it didn't last.


For those of you that have never dealt with infertility, here is a link that I will likely post again as we go through treatments again.  It is Infertility Etiquette from Resolve.org.  This is something that I swear I will print and pass out to everyone who knows that we are going through treatment.  I will hang it in my office and on my fridge as I did the first time around when I was going through IVF.  It is a great resource on how to help you understand what infertiles are dealing with.  If you know an infertile, it may even be what helps you to be a good friend to them.  Enjoy.



  1. I found that really helpful when we were doing IVF. I still refer to us as an infertile couple - despite having a baby - we will always have that with us.

  2. I am the same way. I will always consider us infertile even though we have a baby. We will need IVF again for number 2 also.