So today was K's leave day. Typically he gets put on the first flight out of the day, but he has 2 days of recurrent a few hours from home. So he got a rental car to drive down, and didn't have to leave until the afternoon.
Made it nice, as he handled kid duty this morning. Normally travel days aren't too bad, it typically hits the kids the next day. Tonight started out great, I was running late from a work meeting and so we did a random dinner sitting on the kitchen floor, and the kids happily got themselves dressed for bed.
But they found 3 pieces of taffy that K left on the counter. They know about the taffy, we were all together when we bought it on a mini vacation this past weekend. They were being so good, so I let them know that after we ate our random dinner and they were ready for bed I let them each have a piece of taffy.
10 minutes later we were getting ready to brush our teeth, and the crap hit the fan. Bug MELTED down. It turned into a 25 minute, throw herself on the floor kicking and screaming temper tantrum. Bubba and I went forward with getting ready for bed while she screamed and threw stuff around. She ended up slamming the door to Bubba's room open, so I put her in her room and closed the door. She kept screaming about wanting to brush her teeth, but not wanting to brush her teeth.
It was epic. I have no idea why (other than the damn taffy). She did finally calm down, brushed her teeth, picked up everything she had thrown around, and then covered up with her weighted blanket to finish calming down.
It still took 30 minutes before all was said and done (he needed to poop, they both needed to get a drink and then be tucked back in, you name it, they needed it).
On a positive note, she did realize she had to poop, and did it; in the toilet. So i'm holding onto hope that we are on the upswing of her encopresis. But I've felt this way a million times before, so we shall see.
Fingers crossed that the next 8 days go as smooth as possible. Lots of changes as Bug starts first grade the day after tomorrow (she's excited!), I go back for my last semester of my MBA next Monday, and Bubba starts preschool (in the school system as a typical peer - same program she did but typical peer versus IEP student) next Tuesday.
Showing posts with label temper tantrum. Show all posts
Showing posts with label temper tantrum. Show all posts
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Thursday, May 16, 2013
Terrible Three's
I've heard that there's the terrible two's, and then there's the terrible three's. Boy were people right. We had some rough times right around this time last year, as she was heading into her second birthday. They were rough for many reasons.... I don't think I was ready for my loving little girl to suddenly turn into a temper tantrum throwing toddler. I was pregnant. I had never lived through it and was quite unable to tell how much she understood.
It's different now. For one, while we remain in speech therapy, she is doing much more talking and I KNOW she understands. I'm not pregnant, and I've now lived through it.
BUT.
This is SO much worse than it was last year. This is all out screaming, throwing herself around, laying on the floor and kicking her legs and flailing her arms, screaming, head banging, screaming tantrums. Did I mention screaming? It's heartbreaking. I see why some parents give in. It's so hard sometimes to stand my ground. But she gets her stubborn from me.
Tonight it started because I gave her some raspberries to snack on (she asked for them). She has an issue with eating food with a boo boo (that's a whole nother post), so she started throwing some raspberries in the sink on the side with the garbage disposal. So I told her if they have boo boo's they taste better (sometimes this works), but that didn't stop it. So then I asked her nicely to stop. She didn't. I explained if she didn't I would take them away. She didn't. So I took them away.
The tantrum commenced.
So I held her and tried to comfort her, it didn't work. Then she wanted TV. Which I told her she had to throw away her yogurt container from this morning, eat dinner, and then she could watch a show. (yeah, we had to get up EARLY and K is out of town, so the container was still sitting there LOL). She grabbed the container and made it all the way out to the garbage in the kitchen, then threw them on the floor and wanted MAMA to throw it away.
No go girly.
So she threw another fit, not that the first one had ever really ended. That lasted until dinner was on the table. Then she finally calmed down, picked up the yogurt container and threw it away and came and had dinner. Then she was great for the rest of the night.
Oy Vey.
It's different now. For one, while we remain in speech therapy, she is doing much more talking and I KNOW she understands. I'm not pregnant, and I've now lived through it.
BUT.
This is SO much worse than it was last year. This is all out screaming, throwing herself around, laying on the floor and kicking her legs and flailing her arms, screaming, head banging, screaming tantrums. Did I mention screaming? It's heartbreaking. I see why some parents give in. It's so hard sometimes to stand my ground. But she gets her stubborn from me.
Tonight it started because I gave her some raspberries to snack on (she asked for them). She has an issue with eating food with a boo boo (that's a whole nother post), so she started throwing some raspberries in the sink on the side with the garbage disposal. So I told her if they have boo boo's they taste better (sometimes this works), but that didn't stop it. So then I asked her nicely to stop. She didn't. I explained if she didn't I would take them away. She didn't. So I took them away.
The tantrum commenced.
So I held her and tried to comfort her, it didn't work. Then she wanted TV. Which I told her she had to throw away her yogurt container from this morning, eat dinner, and then she could watch a show. (yeah, we had to get up EARLY and K is out of town, so the container was still sitting there LOL). She grabbed the container and made it all the way out to the garbage in the kitchen, then threw them on the floor and wanted MAMA to throw it away.
No go girly.
So she threw another fit, not that the first one had ever really ended. That lasted until dinner was on the table. Then she finally calmed down, picked up the yogurt container and threw it away and came and had dinner. Then she was great for the rest of the night.
Oy Vey.
Saturday, July 28, 2012
Disappeared?
I'm still here!!
I have had stuff to say, but by the time I get bug to bed at night I'm SO VERY TIRED. I water the plants, take my shower, watch 20 mins of TV and go to bed. Yep, that's my life these days.
First I wanted to thank everyone for their comments on my terrible two's post. I did call EI, and we are in the process of setting up the home visit. Bug seems more interested in learning the names of things, so I'm hoping that's a good sign. She seems to want to talk more, just can't quite figure out how. So we are also getting her ears checked just to make sure that there's no fluid in them.
We had her 24 month check up on Thursday. She is now 32 inches and 26.1 pounds. She's smack in the middle of the percentiles. Not that I care much about them, but this kiddo still seems tiny while seeming huge at the same time. Crazy, I know.
She turned 2 (OMG, she's 2?!!!) on Wednesday, the 25th. I took the day off and her GodMother flew in for the day. Unfortunately K wasn't able to get out of work, so we actually opened up her presents on Thursday, when he was home. It was very nice. But on Wednesday we went to the park and played for as long as my arms could take it on the slide. She swung some too, but she LOVES slides. We had a blast!!! Then we had mac and cheese and corn for dinner (her favorites) and she crashed at bedtime.
Yesterday, our sweet little angel baby Holden turned 2 up in heaven. His parents and younger sister celebrated with cake, ice cream and balloons being lifted up by the wind in the short break in clouds during the rain. I was sorry I couldn't be there, but let them know that I was thinking of them. They seem to be doing so well these days, but I know how hard it must still be. Their daughter just turned 8 months old, and boy is she a cutie.
All in all things have been going good. I've been trying my best to ward off the tantrums, sometimes successfully, but trying really hard to figure out what it is that she wants to communicate to me. Some days are better than others. I really think that EI may be able to help.
All else is well in our lives. K is working too much, I'm stressed about my work (too many big projects). But the pregnancy is going well. I'm almost 17 weeks and most crazy symptoms have dwindled, although not gone away entirely. I am starting to feel movement, but not too much of it. I've not put on much weight, but have quite the baby bump. Those people that I haven't specifically told about the pregnancy have pretty much figured it out by now, although I don't know if/when I'll announce it on Facebook. K wants to, maybe I'll let him and I'll leave it alone. I just know of at least 1 person on there dealing with IF, and I'm not sure if there are others.
Well, Bug is calling for attention, so off I go. Have a great day everyone!!
I have had stuff to say, but by the time I get bug to bed at night I'm SO VERY TIRED. I water the plants, take my shower, watch 20 mins of TV and go to bed. Yep, that's my life these days.
First I wanted to thank everyone for their comments on my terrible two's post. I did call EI, and we are in the process of setting up the home visit. Bug seems more interested in learning the names of things, so I'm hoping that's a good sign. She seems to want to talk more, just can't quite figure out how. So we are also getting her ears checked just to make sure that there's no fluid in them.
We had her 24 month check up on Thursday. She is now 32 inches and 26.1 pounds. She's smack in the middle of the percentiles. Not that I care much about them, but this kiddo still seems tiny while seeming huge at the same time. Crazy, I know.
She turned 2 (OMG, she's 2?!!!) on Wednesday, the 25th. I took the day off and her GodMother flew in for the day. Unfortunately K wasn't able to get out of work, so we actually opened up her presents on Thursday, when he was home. It was very nice. But on Wednesday we went to the park and played for as long as my arms could take it on the slide. She swung some too, but she LOVES slides. We had a blast!!! Then we had mac and cheese and corn for dinner (her favorites) and she crashed at bedtime.
Yesterday, our sweet little angel baby Holden turned 2 up in heaven. His parents and younger sister celebrated with cake, ice cream and balloons being lifted up by the wind in the short break in clouds during the rain. I was sorry I couldn't be there, but let them know that I was thinking of them. They seem to be doing so well these days, but I know how hard it must still be. Their daughter just turned 8 months old, and boy is she a cutie.
All in all things have been going good. I've been trying my best to ward off the tantrums, sometimes successfully, but trying really hard to figure out what it is that she wants to communicate to me. Some days are better than others. I really think that EI may be able to help.
All else is well in our lives. K is working too much, I'm stressed about my work (too many big projects). But the pregnancy is going well. I'm almost 17 weeks and most crazy symptoms have dwindled, although not gone away entirely. I am starting to feel movement, but not too much of it. I've not put on much weight, but have quite the baby bump. Those people that I haven't specifically told about the pregnancy have pretty much figured it out by now, although I don't know if/when I'll announce it on Facebook. K wants to, maybe I'll let him and I'll leave it alone. I just know of at least 1 person on there dealing with IF, and I'm not sure if there are others.
Well, Bug is calling for attention, so off I go. Have a great day everyone!!
Saturday, July 7, 2012
Terrible Two's?!
So, Bug's birthday is coming up in just under 3 weeks. And boy, has she hit the terrible twos!!
I think part of the problem is that she still isn't really talking. She says (in sign language) More, Eat, Please, Thank you, Milk, Water and Thirsty. She speaks Mama and Dada (although not very often), This, That, yes, no and Ice. That's about it. So I think she's having a hard time communicating, on top of the whole learning to deal with the strong feelings.
Today was a good day. We only had one mid level and three minor melt downs. They involved crying and some kicking and hitting of the poor floor. But there are worse.
Most days, in the time after I get home from work, we manage to have sometimes 3 or more melt downs. Mind you, this is between about 5:45ish and 7:30ish when she goes to bed. These melt downs range from minor (not lasting long, mainly just some sitting down and crying), to mid level (crying harder, throwing herself on the floor kicking and screaming) to major (all of the above plus hitting everything in sight including me, the dog, and herself), scratching herself to the point of drawing blood, pulling out her hair, crying so hard she almost pukes, and comes out sweaty and exhausted.
I've tried ignoring, holding through, talking to her softly, talking to her whiny. I've tried joining her on the floor. Nothing seems to work.
Is this all normal? On the weekends it gets BAD. I mean, sometimes 10, 15 tantrums. I asked my mom one day if I was like that at her age (or my brother). She said while we both threw tantrums, they were nothing like Bug's tantrums.
She's obviously a master tantrum thrower.
When K had her in to the dr for her 18 month check up, they gave him some phone numbers to talk to some people about her speech. They also said we could try to wait it out to 2. I wanted to call, he wasn't too worried so he misplaced the numbers. The only new word we seem to have in spoken language since then is ice. Sometimes I think I hear words (please, eat, more milk, hi, etc etc) but they never last. I'm honestly getting worried. And K is hardly ever home, so he doesn't see it as much. This week was nice, he got almost all of Tuesday, and all day Thursday at home. Plus, he's home now putting Bug to bed. Which is so nice.
Speaking of putting bug to bed. I was really starting to stress because she STILL wasn't going to sleep on her own. I had no idea how I was going to manage it with her and an infant. Then we went on vacation and my Mom sleep trained her. Not in the way I would have chosen, but I was desperate, so it became OK. She's doing pretty good with letting us put her down and then walk out. She has cried the last 2 nights though. I hope it keeps getting better, as I want to try to transition her to a new bed so the new baby can use the crib. Plus, she won't nap in her crib any longer (she has napped on a cot at daycare for a year now). So she's been napping on the couch. I don't love this set up, but it's better than the alternative, which is no nap at all. She's not ready for that yet.
For the good news, she's still very much a lover when she wants to be. Nothing makes up for the tantrums more than some big old hugs and kisses from the sweetest little girl I know.
I think part of the problem is that she still isn't really talking. She says (in sign language) More, Eat, Please, Thank you, Milk, Water and Thirsty. She speaks Mama and Dada (although not very often), This, That, yes, no and Ice. That's about it. So I think she's having a hard time communicating, on top of the whole learning to deal with the strong feelings.
Today was a good day. We only had one mid level and three minor melt downs. They involved crying and some kicking and hitting of the poor floor. But there are worse.
Most days, in the time after I get home from work, we manage to have sometimes 3 or more melt downs. Mind you, this is between about 5:45ish and 7:30ish when she goes to bed. These melt downs range from minor (not lasting long, mainly just some sitting down and crying), to mid level (crying harder, throwing herself on the floor kicking and screaming) to major (all of the above plus hitting everything in sight including me, the dog, and herself), scratching herself to the point of drawing blood, pulling out her hair, crying so hard she almost pukes, and comes out sweaty and exhausted.
I've tried ignoring, holding through, talking to her softly, talking to her whiny. I've tried joining her on the floor. Nothing seems to work.
Is this all normal? On the weekends it gets BAD. I mean, sometimes 10, 15 tantrums. I asked my mom one day if I was like that at her age (or my brother). She said while we both threw tantrums, they were nothing like Bug's tantrums.
She's obviously a master tantrum thrower.
When K had her in to the dr for her 18 month check up, they gave him some phone numbers to talk to some people about her speech. They also said we could try to wait it out to 2. I wanted to call, he wasn't too worried so he misplaced the numbers. The only new word we seem to have in spoken language since then is ice. Sometimes I think I hear words (please, eat, more milk, hi, etc etc) but they never last. I'm honestly getting worried. And K is hardly ever home, so he doesn't see it as much. This week was nice, he got almost all of Tuesday, and all day Thursday at home. Plus, he's home now putting Bug to bed. Which is so nice.
Speaking of putting bug to bed. I was really starting to stress because she STILL wasn't going to sleep on her own. I had no idea how I was going to manage it with her and an infant. Then we went on vacation and my Mom sleep trained her. Not in the way I would have chosen, but I was desperate, so it became OK. She's doing pretty good with letting us put her down and then walk out. She has cried the last 2 nights though. I hope it keeps getting better, as I want to try to transition her to a new bed so the new baby can use the crib. Plus, she won't nap in her crib any longer (she has napped on a cot at daycare for a year now). So she's been napping on the couch. I don't love this set up, but it's better than the alternative, which is no nap at all. She's not ready for that yet.
For the good news, she's still very much a lover when she wants to be. Nothing makes up for the tantrums more than some big old hugs and kisses from the sweetest little girl I know.
Friday, March 30, 2012
True Story
So, K was gone the other night. Bug was a big cranky butt (I'm thinking the terrible two's are starting :-) - she's got staying power with her temper tantrums!!
Anyways, we had egg burritos for dinner. She tore hers all apart and LOVED on the sour cream. That's my girl!! Her orange shirt looked nice and blotched with white after. She tears off her bibs, so I've mostly given up on putting them on. Anyways, she stole a bit of the burrito shell and took it down from the high chair with her. I let her, since she'd been such a pill all night. A bit later she was fussing again, so I picked her up, and her hand went right down my shirt to my nipple. yep, she's still doing that.
A few minutes later I put her down and was walking through the kitchen. I realized that my nipple felt cold. So, I peeked down my shirt and what did I find in my bra??
Burrito shell. Soft taco shell, whatever you call it.
You can't make this stuff up :-)
Anyways, we had egg burritos for dinner. She tore hers all apart and LOVED on the sour cream. That's my girl!! Her orange shirt looked nice and blotched with white after. She tears off her bibs, so I've mostly given up on putting them on. Anyways, she stole a bit of the burrito shell and took it down from the high chair with her. I let her, since she'd been such a pill all night. A bit later she was fussing again, so I picked her up, and her hand went right down my shirt to my nipple. yep, she's still doing that.
A few minutes later I put her down and was walking through the kitchen. I realized that my nipple felt cold. So, I peeked down my shirt and what did I find in my bra??
Burrito shell. Soft taco shell, whatever you call it.
You can't make this stuff up :-)
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